One of those days – dealing with stupid people

I’ve just had one of those days that makes me want to never leave my house again.  Ok, yes I’ve had worse days and have encountered worse behavior in people but today was a testimony to how sad our society can be.  I can’t say “is” because I’ve met a lot of good people in my 46 years of living but I think they are all staying home these days so as not to encounter the sort of people I encountered today.

Today my long standing opinions were tested.  I have always believed that women don’t mean to be bad mothers – we just do what we know how to do.  Much of our (in general) behavior is learned from our parents who learned from their parents and so on and some of us our lucky enough to learn from those mistakes and go on to make all new mistakes of our own that we try to help our children learn from.  To the point though – what I witnessed today was something I felt was totally heartless.  This complaint has to do with two women (I believe they were sisters) probably in their 30′s.  Their father was also involved in the conversation.  He was asking about what he had heard about the 9-year-old girl starting her period.  Woman B said something and woman A (the girls mother) responded with, in a snarky tone, “oh, she didn’t start her period – she just thinks she did because there was blood when she wiped”.  She said this in a tone that said she thought her daughter was stupid and didn’t care that there was blood when her daughter wiped.  I made a comment, “she’s too young to have hemorrhoids.”   The mother responds with, “oh she just does’t wipe very good.”  I don’t remember what woman B was saying but she also had a non concerned attitude towards this little girl bleeding.   All the women seemed to care about was that this girl not be telling people that she started her period.   Ok, by this time I am just totally annoyed with the women’s tone like she doesn’t care that her daughter is bleeding just so long as she hasn’t started her period.  I didn’t ask but from her attitude I seriously doubt if she took the little girl to the doctor over this.

OK, lets think about this for just a moment.  If the little girl has not started her period and doesn’t have hemorrhoids and the mother claims it is from not wiping good then just how bad is this girls hygiene to be bleeding?  Even if she wasn’t wiping good she wouldn’t be bleeding.  If it’s not hemorrhoids or the start of a menstrual cycle there is only two other things I can think of it could be and both are so horrible that I can’t help but wonder if I should call someone.

First thought, after mom saying the bleeding is caused from not wiping good is that this girl must not be taking baths either because the situation would be bad enough to either scab up and bleed or oozing blood.  Seriously?  Take the girl to the doctor.  The next thought is this girl has been molested.  I can’t help but wonder about this girl’s home life if the mother is so heartless to just write off her daughter bleeding from that area.

Next complaint for the day is how women take their kids to the park then not pay attention to them while they sit at the picnic tables yakking it up while their kids act like little hoodlums knocking over kids half their size.  It’s no wonder children behave so badly – they have no one paying enough attention to them to point out unacceptable behavior or teach them proper behavior.

Third out of 4 – When you turn a corner to find a vehicle already backing out of a parking spot do not sit there and honk at them – stop and let them out.  I don’t think many people realize that if someone is already backing out when you approach them they actually do have the right of way – of course if you hit them it is hard to prove unless their is witnesses but you know what – letting them continue to back out is the polite thing to do!

Last is not so much a complaint but I was witness to stupidity at it best.  First of all the stupidity of the security and workers at one of our local grocery stores.  When the weather is warm and someone walks in with over sized clothes and a big jacket that is a pretty sure sign that this person is most likely going to shoplift.  I walked around the corner to see the backside of a man squatted with his pants half down his butt but his underwear actually at the waist where his pants should also be and he had both hands (or so it appeared from the backside) down his pants making a up and down movement with is arms  which looked really gross at first but it was apparent that he was shoving something down his pants and trying to get it situated.

His stupidity was that he was so blatently obvious – I had stood there for a good 5 seconds watching him before he even looked up and around to see if someone was watching.  Another man had turned into the isle from the opposite direction so he was spotted from two directions.  He looked up and saw the other man in front of him then turned and saw me and quickly moved on.  I moved on as well and spotted him two more times as we seemed to be heading the same direction.  Each time he spotted me (we were at opposite ends of each isle) he turned and went the other direction.  When I pointed this out to one of the workers she was oblivious to what was going on.  She had spotted him but never thought to keep an eye on him – baggy clothes and big jacket on warm day – come on – it couldn’t have been more obvious unless he was wearing a sign that said watch me as I rob you blind.